So I’m stuck in Miami. I was flying back to the field, when craziness broke out and now I’m…stuck. It’s a good stuck, overall, except I have been with my kids almost every minute of every day for about three hundred days. Or maybe it’s only three, I can’t remember. The point is we’re super stressed around here, and I majorly lost my cool with my kids tonight when they wouldn’t go to sleep in our shared hotel room.
Thankfully, I was watching a video unrelated to my parenting failures, and it reminded me about 4-7-8 breathing.
Mamas, this is my secret weapon, except I totally forgot about it until now. This helps me keep my cool 100% of the time, and I will totally be using it in the days ahead. So if summer’s got your hair falling out (or perhaps being actively ripped out of your head), let’s give this a try, shall we?
Breathe in for a count of four.
Hold your breath for a count of seven.
Breathe out for a count of eight.
Start over and do it again a few times until you feel calm.
Need a video? Probably not, but just in case, here you go: https://www.drweil.com/videos-features/videos/breathing-exercises-4-7-8-breath/
The science behind it is simple. When we’re stressed, we breathe IN a lot, but not OUT a lot. Breathing more out than in triggers your brain to feel calm. So if you can’t do a count of eight, just try for more than five.
4-7-8. Repeat. You can save the above picture as a backdrop for your phone.
And the real beauty is that you’ll confuse the heck out of your kids, who will expect you to yell or storm off or do something. Standing there just breathing, they’ll probably make sure you’re not having a stroke. Have some fun with it.
Love you, mamas. You are doing a good job. Keep it up.